When ellenor’s Cat Wilde talks about her career, one-word surfaces again and again: relationships.
For more than 20 years she has been a paediatric nurse, specialising in oncology. Now, as Children’s Team Operational Lead at ellenor – a hospice charity providing care in its inpatient ward, Wellbeing centre, and in people’s homes across Kent and Bexley – she brings the same passion for building trust and connection into the heart of children’s hospice care.
“Some people find it strange when you say you love oncology,” Cat says. “But for me, it’s about the relationships. A cancer journey lasts years, and as a Specialist Nurse you become part of the family. They rely on you for support and advice, knowing you have their back and will fight for them.”
Cat’s nursing career began at Queen Mary’s Hospital in Sidcup, on an oncology unit for children.
“That’s where I found my love of oncology”, she says. “It’s where my passion was - where I wanted to grow my career”. Later, Cat moved to University College Hospital London, working on the Teenage Cancer Trust ward, before leaving to set up and lead a new oncology service with a consultant she’d worked with in a previous role.
That service thrived: receiving excellent peer reviews, an outstanding rating, and glowing feedback from families. “During this time, we worked very closely with ellenor. I got to know the team well and decided that ellenor was for me; that I wanted to come and join them.”
For Cat, the decision was also personal. “My stepmum died under the care of ellenor. My nan died a few years ago from lymphoma. Because of my job role, I was always the one called on to help, but ellenor helped us then. I consider it a privilege to be able to work in a place that supported my loved ones at the end of their lives.”
Today, Cat leads a team of ten – five nurses and five care assistants – at ellenor. Together, they provide nursing care, respite, and end-of-life support for children and their families across Dartford, Gravesend and Swanley.
“Our role is to keep children at home for as long as possible,” Cat explains. “The children under our care have spent so much time in hospital. Being in hospital is disruptive for the child, as well as their parents and siblings - it has a huge impact on the whole family. We’re able to give antibiotics and chemotherapy at home, as well as run blood tests. A GP will accept our examination, enabling them to prescribe what the child needs - meaning the family doesn’t have to spend long hours travelling to and waiting in hospitals.”
Misconceptions around hospice care are rife, and one is that a hospice like ellenor is simply a place people “go to die. Because, while ellenor does offer support for children at the end of their life, much of its work is with young people living with life-limiting conditions. These can’t be cured, but ellenor can help families manage them to maximise quality of life and reduce symptoms and pain.